Anita Hempenius

Fluent in both ADHD and non-ADHD. I help couples stop mistranslating each other | ADHD Coaching | Neurodiversity Training | Creative Coaching Supervision

I translate.

Between ADHD brains and non-ADHD brains. Between facts and feelings. Between what someone meant to say and what their partner actually heard.

I know you are not fighting about the housework. You are fighting because one of you is speaking in facts and the other is speaking in feelings, and nobody translated. One partner's brain is scanning for problems to fix. The other's is scanning for connection to feel. Both are trying. Neither is being heard.

I am Anita Hempenius, and I built the SPARK & STEADY COUPLES framework for exactly this: partnerships where one (or both) of you is ADHD or A(u)DHD, and the "normal" relationship advice keeps making things worse because it assumes you are both running the same operating system. You are not. That is not a flaw to fix. It is a translation problem to solve.

I have been there myself and worked at understanding both sides. I am now fluent in ADHD and in non-ADHD. That is why I call myself a translator.

I do not do "communicate better." I translate by explaining what is actually happening in each of your heads and why the same pattern keeps occurring. This is how you can make that stop.

If you are tired of translating for your partner on your own, book a free introductory call on my website.