Anita Hempenius | Scatterbrain Coaching

Relationship Coach for Neurodivergent Couples - Helping ADHD & ADHD/nonADHD Couples Rebuild Balance, Communication & Joy - Creator of SPARK & STEADY COUPLES

ADHD/nonADHD couples often have extra stress in their lives due to the impact of the ADHDer having a different brain, a childhood of not being understood, and not having learned how to regulate their emotions.

All of this clashes with their partner’s own perspective and background, leading to misunderstandings, communication breakdowns, and a repeating pattern of arguments and fights. With my help you learn to understand each other, walk alongside each other while you work through your issues, and build the foundations of a healthy and calm relationship.

What makes this work different? Unlike traditional couples coaching, I integrate ADHD coaching and psycho-education, trauma-informed practice, and positive psychology together with my own lived experience. This isn't about quick fixes. It is about creating lasting change through structured, compassionate, and deeply experiential coaching.

The couples I work with often face:

• Communication breakdowns that feel impossible to resolve
• Unequal emotional and household labour
• One partner carrying everything while the other feels disconnectedOld patterns and trauma responses that keep resurfacing
• ADHD-related challenges that strain connection

Together, we address:

• How to speak the same language, even when your brains work differently.
• Emotional regulation and co-regulation strategies that actually work
• Breaking cycles that no longer serve you
• Building practical systems for calmer, more balanced living
• Creating a partnership where both people feel secure, understood, and free to be themselves

The result? A relaxed, equal, and genuinely happy partnership: one where you can enjoy each other's differences without conflict or resentment.

Your relationship has strengths you haven't fully tapped into yet. Let me help you find them.

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Summary of experience:

After my own ADHD diagnosis and the consequent deep dive into all things ADHD, I decided to become an ADHD coach. I took courses at the ADD Coaching Academy but this did not feel like enough. I started working as a coach but in addition I studied for a postgraduate applied positive psychology and coaching psychology diploma and somatic trauma informed practice.I am accredited by the EMCC as senior practitioner and volunteer with them as coaching mentor, and have over 500 hours of coaching experience with ADHDers, non-ADHDers about ADHD, AuDHDers, trauma informed practice, manager coaching about neurodivergence, couples, and groups.

I am currently busy studying creative supervision.

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